Hint: self-knowledge is power. As we all know, the beauty industry for men and women is one of the most lucrative out there, often raking in billions — maybe even trillions worldwide yearly. The ad spend on beauty products, fashion, and other categories is also in the billions, which means…

Examining the connection between humans and baby elephants. — It’s easy to train an elephant. All you need to do is tie a baby elephant’s leg to a tree or a stake, and soon enough, it succumbs to the reality that escape is impossible. As it grows, the elephant clings to this belief, enabling farmers in Thailand to lead…

Sexy strategies to get to a win-win. — “You always,” “You never,” “You make me,” “You hurt me,” “You this,” “You that.” Sound familiar? These are the common land mines stepped on in the realm of dysfunctional relationships. Nine times out of ten, these landmines are made out of unmet needs, poor communication, and lack of ownership. Thankfully…

How are you protecting yourself from getting what you want? — “I’m a fucking bull in a china shop,” I said to a female friend as we deconstructed what went wrong, realizing that a pattern of bad behavior has been killing my interactions with women. One day prior “Did you really think that was funny?” She said about the joke I sent to the…

How to vastly improve your relationship in 6 steps. — “Of course I’m listening!” I said as I continued checking my phone, tuning her out like she was background noise. I hurriedly fired off a message and pocketed my phone just in time to prevent another fight from erupting. Communication was not my forte. I realized later that what I…

If you really want it, chances are you’ll get it. — Forget about looks. Ok, don’t actually forget about looks cause they matter. However, they won’t matter much if you’re not actually “feeling it.” Here’s an example: I’ve been on several dates where I was kind of attracted to her but not like, “Hell yeah” attracted. She could feel it, and…

What I thought was a puddle is more like the Pacific Ocean. — Today was a big day. It was the day I looked down at the depths of my anger and couldn’t see the bottom. What was a suspicion turned out to be darker, deeper, and broader than I imagined. It was an ocean of anger I pretended was a puddle, and…

It all starts with willingness. You’re probably used to me writing about life and relationships and offering advice, but that is not life and relationship coaching. Life coaching is not consulting. I’ve written about various aspects of mental health, such as addictive behavior, codependency, childhood trauma, and family roles. Naturally…