Hey Ramona,

I understand how it might feel to recognize a behavioral pattern, so I applaud you for seeing it and wanting to change. I also know how maddening it is to be attracted to unavailable people.

I wrote a story about it:

https://medium.com/hello-love/how-to-stop-pursuing-unavailable-people-2c8ed84b3803

Maybe you can find some guidance in there. I help people with this but I highly recommend SLAA if you're open to 12 Step work.

Best of luck,

Michael