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This Is How to Become More Attractive to Healthy People
It’s simple but not easy.
Over the centuries, humans have been obsessed with what makes people attractive, from makeup to body physique to cars, clothes, and money.
Of course, all of these play a factor, but I’ve discovered a deeper form of attractiveness that’s more about behavior, attitude, and emotional maturity. It’s the antidote to the unattractive characteristic known as codependency.
Codependency is the reliance on someone else — usually without their knowledge or consent — to meet certain needs. Typically these needs should have been supplied by the parents in early childhood, but they were not.
People who grow up with unmet dependency needs — things like mirroring, holding, affirming, and validating, become adult children later on. Emotionally, they’re frozen in a particular set of ages that come out at different times.
When these people get into relationships, they subconsciously seek out (or create) scenarios attempting to get these needs met, resulting in codependent behavior.
So what behaviors are both healthy and attractive? It’s the process of meeting one’s needs outside of any romantic relationship, as well as a moderate display of emotions.
