Why You Keep Screwing Up Your Relationships

What is intimacy?

It is impossible to be intimate if you have no sense of self. How can you share yourself with another if you do not really know who you are? How can anyone know you if you do not know who you really are?

It’s self-protection.

Defense Mechanisms

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The Madonna-whore Complex

Sexual and/or emotional anorexia

Unavailable people

Compare and despair

Other examples of Intimacy Defense Mechanisms:

Intimacy is Reality

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Reprogramming

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youOS

It works if you work it.

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